’ ex-wife, , used alleged messages sent by the actor as evidence in their ongoing custody war, In Touch can exclusively report.

Aryn, 43, filed a declaration on March 6, opposing the Grey’s Anatomy star’s request for 50/50 custody. A hearing has been scheduled for later this month on the matter.

Back in September 2024, Jesse, 43, asked the court to modify the custody deal that provided him with two overnight visits when school is in session.

The actor said in court, “The children and I are crazy about each other, and we have a deeply loving active and closely bonded relationship. There is absolutely no reason why Aryn should have more custodial time with the children than me.”

“They almost always ask me how many days they will be with me week to week and if they can ‘just stay longer.’ I moved to a home only 15 minutes from Aryn to make transitions as easy as possible but even with proximity, the number of transitions is unnecessarily challenging for our children and causes unnecessary interactions between me and Aryn,” Jesse said.

Jesse also accused Aryn of failing to answer the majority of his court-ordered FaceTime calls to the kids over the years and refusing to turn over information about her new boyfriend.

In newly filed response, Aryn seemed to be board with Jesse’s 50/50 custody request.

She asked that the “right of first refusal” be reinstated, which means when one parent is unavailable to personally be with the children during their custody time because they are out of town, the other will be given the right of first refusal to have time.

“Our children do not benefit from being in the care of a nanny, when a parent is nearby and available to be with them while the other parent is out of town,” Aryn said.

Aryn also claimed Jesse “consistently bullies, intimidates and harasses” her.

She said he used his attorneys to bully her regularly, “making demands and threats to take” her to court and filing emergency motions if she doesn’t comply with Jesse’s demands, “ungrounded and riddled with confusion and lies.”

“Jesse wants to handcuff [Aryn] to the orders while ignoring most of the rules for himself,” she said. “The majority of [Jesse’s] requests are not in the best interests of our children. They orient around serving [Jesse’s] desires at the expense of our children’s mental, psychological, emotional and physical health. He is asking that the three of us be on call to accommodate his inconsistencies at all times.”

Aryn attached alleged messages and texts from Jesse to back up her claims he and his team “bully” her.

In one alleged message, dated January 24, Jesse wrote to Aryn as they fought over their son’s missing soccer jersey.

He wrote, “No one cares about your exhausting, self-absorbed attempts at blame and stories: they’re irrelevant. Solve the problem for your son. Stop losing their stuff all the time.”

The alleged message continued, “And when you do, find a solution for your child instead of all this energy throwing bombs at me and canceling the child’s activities. Jerseys don’t have legs — how many people are in and our of your home?” Jesse allegedly added, “Make the effort to find his jerseys and if that fails, reach out to parents whose kids are not attending the tournament and borrow theirs.”

The message continued, “Ruining the experience for [their son] to try to score some dramatic political points against me is not child centered. Stop harassing me with your needed, vapid word-salad bulls–t. If any of it made sense it would stand up to the most basic scrutiny. It never does. You’d have to answer to any of the perfectly fair questions posed. You never do. Fight. Duck, dodge, repeat.”

He allegedly ended, “Grow up or give us custody and I’ll gladly handle this.”

In another alleged message, dated January 5, that Aryn found to be an example of bullying, read, “As predicted, you don’t have the courage or clarify to address even a fraction of the coparenting alarms and questions you’ve set off below.”

The alleged message continued, “What’s so hard for you about addressing reality? Instead you revert to those tired reflex to turn every interaction into a hostage negotiation. You don’t steal, then set the terms. We don’t negotiate with terrorists. Grow up and get out of the way.”

In regard to not turning over information on her new boyfriend, Aryn previously said, “[Jesse] is out of bounds demanding additional information that isn’t ordered, especially considering that he hasn’t provided this same information related to any of his personal situations in turn.”

The actor has yet to respond to Aryn’s declaration. Jesse and Aryn settled their divorce in 2019.

The exes share a daughter named Sadie, born in 2013, and a son named Maceo, born in 2015.